“Though we know death is certain, we have not prepared ourselves for it. Though we know paradise is definite, we have not worked for it. Though we know the hell fire is sure, we have not feared it. So why are you delighted? What are you waiting for? Death is the first visitor from the Almighty bringing good or evil tidings… get closer to your Lord.”4 ~Hamid al-Qasyrasi (rahimahullah)
I bought a new number (sim card) from a new service provider. After installing and activating the number i got a few smses that came one after another. I just skimmed through but one caught my attention.
The excerpt goes, u have successfully bought/ paid for a song. RM1.50 have been deducted from your credit. This subscription will continue to deduct your money/ credit weekly.
World Taekwondo Federation! they just deducted my money without my consent. So this is how they make money. I didn't know that they've set the subscription by default. But i didn't see any use of a caller ring tone to me so u need to consult me before taking my money. Money doesn't grow on trees.
I want to quote a profound phrase that i heard today that goes "Bak kata pepatah harimau mati meninggalkan belang, Pn Yul belum mati lagi tapi meninggalkan nama..".
It was about one of our work mate who is leaving to work at another place. We fixed her a farewell party and gave her an oven, literally. There was not a dry pair of eyes in the house including her who got an oven.
She's been there for ten years, I arrived at her last three, two and a half, two and a quarter to be exact. She had been a sister and an inspiration to all. Her swiftness and dedication are truly an admiration.
So folk if U want an oven starts filling the e-tukar now.
At the third phases of your child life (13 upwards) it is encouraged that parents be friend with their children. Teenagers need to be closely monitored yet respected. Close monitor doesn't mean treating them with prejudice instead put reason up front to rationale parent's actions of a rationale action of course.
With all the physical changes and increased sex drive privacy is a necessity. Gets your children consent over periodical room and belongings inspection to tell them that you respect their privacy yet this is your house and don't bring illegal stuff inside your house and their life. Diary, smses and letters are considered private so treat like one, if u need to read those make sure they read it first and they don't know u have read it and don't humiliate them by telling them u read their diary, letters and smes. If u found something unpleasant in there, consult them don't interrogate because they're not criminals.
Teenagers need to be heard. Listen to them. Parents will not be degraded if U ask for your teenage child opinion sometime. This will help and value them as pre adult. Problems emerge with some parents ignoring their children and pretending they know everything thus what's best for their teenage child. This is proven wrong. Yes parents know what is best based on experience yet it is better to guide their children instead of imposing arbitrary decision. Unless they asked u to.
Trust. Ever wonder why father knows last, because your child don't trust U. Right in the face. When parents deemed their children with prejudice, they plucked one petal of trust from their children. When parents unwrapped and read their children's letters before they did, parents plucked another petal of trust. When parents read their children's diary, they plucked another. In the end the flower of trust are gone and your children go to a total stranger.
If parents follow closely what have been suggested if god permits nothing will goes wrong. Remember what you give is what u get. Don't blame the education system, their friends and the internet if anything goes wrong with your children because everything started with u, parents.
What U shouldn't do when u are old is giving free lecture of a subject u totally unfamiliar of trying to hide the fact that u are an ignorance once. People hate hypocrite.
Ignoramus. At their early life they refused to study, note: free education are available at the mosque. At the later age when retired they start reading books, listening to the radio and TV. Basically learning without an expert guidance is learning from Mr Satan himself.
Out of sudden, one day they are found giving sermon and advices free of charge to others. All quotes given are based merely on their own interpretation without the guidance of an expert, thus created a new scholar. Everyday they sit on the porch hoping for others to make mistake so that they can start lecturing when they see one.
These free sermon, advices and lecture are given so that others see them as pious men, hiding the fact that they are the ignorant brat.
What they are unaware of is hypocrite generates much more hatred and shines more ignorance despite what is obvious.
Once a parent asked me to scold his teenage child who he claimed is avoiding him. Apparently his teaming up to jump on his child. I asked the parent in return did he have any idea to why his child behave in that particular manner? He said because of bad influenced from his child company. Eventually, that what all losers do, blame others.
Islam proposes three phases in raising children, the first seven years after birth, the second seven years and the third seven years.
The first seven years, adores your child, play with them and talk to them, miss this, they won't talk to u later too much of this they'd turn aggressive and egocentric.
The second seven years, discipline them, after installing love and affection its time to discipline them, miss this, they won't respect you, too much of this u've just created a psycho.
The third phase begin at 13 or 14 years old, Islam encourages parents to be friend with their child as at this age they're pre-adult and delicate, despite closely monitored, respect their privacy, show that U trusted them, hear them out, miss this, they'll hate U, too much of this they'll turned wild.
This is the path of Islam, the path of peace, peace needs balance, balance needs pairs, both parent's rights and child's rights observed, no room for chaos. Walk its path, nothing goes wrong.
So why is your teenage child avoiding U? it's either u never talk to him when he was at the first seven years, or u jump to discipline him or u still treating him like a kid whereas his already a teenager. reflects man, reflects.
Secret to happiness. Your parents live to see U live better. How do u repay them is not how much money u send them per month. It's what they can tell people about their children achievement. YOU, that is their ultimate achievement.
Scores in every major examinations. earned a place at the university. get a good job and a good husband or wife, husband especially. The benchmark is when they're not hesitant to tell people about U their child in any conversation they're in.
My daughter's got straight A's in SPM? She's an excellent student.
Now she's studying at Uni.... (This was before when very few selective people only can further their study at Uni, nowadays everybody can get a degree, not fun anymore.)
Now engaged to a successful organic farmer.
Her brother run his own internet business (then working with government was the most prestige, now blergh /no its time to throw away the walking stick)
Money is one of the tool of happiness but in their age money doesn't do much good, with diabetics, hi blood pressure, etc etc, end of money story.
Remember when they're not HESITANT to tell everybody who u are is their secret to happiness.
ALLAH said in the Holy Quran (And of everything We have created pairs, that you may remember. Ad-Dhariyat: 49). Then the Holy Quran give example from the simplest to the complex, there is day and night, heaven and earth, men and women, man's rights and woman's rights, husband's right and wife's rights, parent's rights and child's rights. Pairs, yin yang, push pull.
Islam mean peace. Peace achieved when there is balance. The balance requires the pairs mutually benefit each other. A wife observes husband's rights and a husband observes wife's rights. A child observes parent's rights and parents observe child's rights. There is no one sided coin, both are outlined and prescribed in Islam.
At the other end of peace is chaos. Chaos emerge when the other side is ignored. We took that are in favor of us and left that are not. A husband expects his wife to observe his right but ignored his wife's rights. A parent ask an Ustaz of his rights to scold his child but never ask what of his child's rights. Wife rebels, children run away from home, rebelious.
When everything are one sided the pairs are broken, no pairs no balance, no balance no peace, no peace not Islam (not Islamic).
Why do Finland’s schools get the best results? By Tom Burridge BBC World News America, Helsinki
Last year more than 100 foreign delegations and governments visited Helsinki, hoping to learn the secret of their schools’ success.
In 2006, Finland’s pupils scored the highest average results in science and reading in the whole of the developed world. In the OECD’s exams for 15 year-olds, known as PISA, they also came second in maths, beaten only by teenagers in South Korea.
This isn’t a one-off: in previous PISA tests Finland also came out top. [Read More Here]
The extract of their tactics:
1. Provison of additional teacher to those (pupils) who struggle with all pupils are kept in the same classroom.*
2. Primary and secondary schooling is combined to avoid potentially disruptive transition.
3. The same teacher lead the same class with the same pupils for several years.*
4. School start at the age of seven before then children learn best when playing.
5. Parents have a culture of reading with their kids at home.*
Still remember Pi Mai Pi Mai Tang Tu the sitcom? before 'Senario', 'Pi Mai Pi Mai tang Tu' was one of the most favored comedy sitcom ever aired. Among the casts were Sabri Yunus, Ahmad Busu, Imuda, Pak Uda, Angeline Tan, Sathiya, Khatijah Tan and the late Pak Busu. Each with their own personality and comic attraction.
Pak Uda with his adult joke and misplaced button, Imuda with his northern accent, Sabri Yunus with his Kelantanese, Sathiya, one of the character that will make u sure laugh and sweet sweet Angeline Tan, people will laugh with her just being her.
What make Pi mai pi mai tang tu better than Senario is the 1Malaysia concept, they had it even before DS Najib premiership. Mix races living together dealing with daily issues, each episode is about helping one another regardless race or religion, the key is respect, and what's better they joke about it, it's the icing on the cake.
With nowadays tension we should bring back Pi mai pi mai tang tu to teach us a little about joke and a lot about tolerance.
Live the life of an inmate. Nothing could avail an incarcerated soul. Deemed with prejudice over reason, of what crime that he committed?
an inmate is incarcerate over his own fault, the road he chose in the past. a crime. so he was incarcerated. inspected. deemed with prejudice over all his actions.
he 's not free, not allowed to be. his cell, his diary, his letters all been inspected, strip off his necessities of life, privacy and choice. All aspect of his life are deemed with prejudice over reason.
That serve him right for the crime he committed.
But isn't it awkward to find a benevolent soul, a bright student, a good member of society, a patriot been treated and force to live the life of an inmate? over what crime he did?
Back in my uni days I've joined a pencak silat that claimed its origin from 'kayangan'. A prince from kayangan was banished to earth in a form of a bird. Then the bird met a meditating man in a cave and taught him the art of self defense and war, pencak silat. Later the meditating man taught this art to an earthling prince and so the art was passed on till today.
The eastern Malay and Indonesian folk lore sum ups that people from kayangan did taught earthling of wisdom and breeds the blue blood.
It is not new to the east that people from kayangan intervention with earthling, not just in pencak silat, most of the blue bloods also claims their origin from from kayangan, usually from mixed marriage.
Now where is this kayangan? Kayangan is a 'place above', pointing up to the sky, if u read eastern Malay and Indonesian folk lore. How above? surely very way above, they would say 'the bar-lick are-want' (beyond the clouds), which mean so high that cannot be seen with naked eyes.
To the west the people from kayangan are known as alien, named differently by different cultures. The west also believes alien taught the local to build pyramids aka wisdom and breed greater human of kings and warriors.
Believe or not, people in the east believes in aliens conspiracy as much as in the west, even way before may be.
When u let it out u'll feel better. i felt better already. sometime people just don't get it, just can't differentiate of just being polite, a joke and the truth.
This world is full of souls. Soul with emotion that we could not ignore to speak everything truthfully every time.
sometime we have to joke about something.
sometime we have to be polite about something.
sometime we have to utter the truth and truth hurts.
we have to evade fact and truth to maintain the balance in the force.
Gnothi seauton, know thyself. Knowing oneself is the key to read the world, to figure out the puzzle of life, to constitute the distinction between the distinctive, the torch that led the way out of the mist of confusions to consciousness.
You have to leave the city of your comfort and go into the wilderness of your intuition. What you'll discover will be wonderful. What you'll discover is yourself.
10th grade As I sat there in English class, I stared at the girl next to me. She was my so called "best friend". I stared at her long, silky hair, and wished she was mine. But she didn't notice me like that, and I knew it. After class, she walked up to me and asked me for the notes she had missed the day before and handed them to her. She said "thanks" and gave me a kiss on the cheek. I wanted to tell her, I want her to know that I don't want to be just friends, I love her but I'm just too shy, and I don't know why.
11th grade The phone rang. On the other end, it was her. She was in tears, mumbling on and on about how her love had broke her heart. She asked me to come over because she didn't want to be alone, so I did. As I sat next to her on the sofa, I stared at her soft eyes, wishing she was mine. After 2 hours, one Drew Barrymore movie, and three bags of chips, she decided to go to sleep. She looked at me, said "thanks" and gave me a kiss on the cheek. I want to tell her, I want her to know that I don't want to be just friends, I love her but I'm just too shy, and I don't know why.
Senior year The day before prom she walked to my locker. My date is sick" she said; he's not going to go well, I didn't have a date, and in 7th grade, we made a promise that if neither of us had dates, we would go together just as "best friends". So we did. Prom night, after everything was over, I was standing at her front door step. I stared at her as she smiled at me and stared at me with her crystal eyes. I want her to be mine, but she isn't think of me like that, and I know it. Then she said "I had the best time, thanks!" and gave me a kiss on the cheek. I want to tell her, I want her to know that I don't want to be just friends, I love her but I'm just too shy, and I don't know why.
Graduation Day A day passed, then a week, then a month. Before I could blink, it was graduation day. I watched as her perfect body floated like an angel up on stage to get her diploma. I wanted her to be mine, but she didn't notice me like that, and I knew it. Before everyone went home, she came to me in her smock and hat, and cried as I hugged her. Then she lifted her head from my shoulder and said, "you're my best friend, thanks" and gave me a kiss on the cheek. I want to tell her, I want her to know that I don't want to be just friends, I love her but I'm just too shy, and I don't know why.
A Few Years Later Now I sit in the pews of the church. That girl is getting married now. I watched her say "I do" and drive off to her new life, married to another man. I wanted her to be mine, but she didn't see me like that, and I knew it. But before she drove away, she came to me and said "you came!". She said "thanks" and kissed me on the cheek. I want to tell her, I want her to know that I don't want to be just friends, I love her but I'm just too shy, and I don't know why.
Funeral Years passed, I looked down at the coffin of a girl who used to be my "best friend". At the service, they read a diary entry she had wrote in her high school years. This is what it read: I stare at him wishing he was mine, but he doesn't notice me like that, and I know it. I want to tell him, I want him to know that I don't want to be just friends, I love him but I'm just too shy, and I don't know why. I wish he would tell me he loved me! `I wish I did too...` I thought to my self, and I cried.
There's too much confusion surrounding the people around me lately. Whilst I'm still focus and positive, so hear me out.
the last time I give hope to other was a year ago and never since then, never since then. I don't know what makes U think what are u thinking rite now, but clearly it doesn't come from me directly or indirectly through any medium what so ever as far as i remembered.
There's nothing going on between us so stop acting like there is. it's a total moonshine.
so my advice is, drop it. U're torturing urself and me as well. I don't want to be a part of it, to be claimed in the end a cheater
and last but not least, don't get over react by some concern match maker.
Those who live in Sandakan sure to feel it that the weather today is awkwardly different from all the other day which is sunny and extremely hot even when pissing down with rain. Obviously, today is blessed, its cloudy and humid with no rain all day long and what's better it's the 28 of Ramadhan, is it a coincident, urmm may be it was last night.
A tragedy in Teluk Intan last month, where a husband out of medication takes his family hostage end up killing his own wife, was a classic example of how serious mental illness would be.
Eventually, that's a mental patient on medication. lets look at those with sign of mental illness, or at their early stage.
Do U often went into Yahoo chat-room after 12 mid night? what do U experience? Lots of nick names dedicated to an early stage psycho, eg: abgnktu, abgnkni, abgktcam etc etc. That is one case we have a little concern about since with that kind of nicks they already told us of what they are and what they're going to do.
Worst case scenario is of those with gender disorder. However this exclude the nyah because they're quite a gentlemen coz they will introduce themselves as what they're, the drawback is that they use a woman's nick.
Back to the gender confuser whose under what motive posed as women to chat with their same gender. Adding the last straw, the impostor is normal in sexual appetite, which means they're straight. If so then under what circumstance of a right minded person that he do such a time wasting non gaining thing?
One might say, for fun, and if that so, that is the early stage of a mental illness.
Wise men say, only fools rush in. But I can't help falling in love with you Shall I stay? Would it be a sin? I can't help falling in love with you
It was on a friday back in 2008 when we declared our love chewah. i never met her. we were divided between two continents separated by south china sea. Yet it doesn't stop us. I got her number from a friend, since then we've been texting each other every nite till that friday that i decided to declared our love. wise men say only fools rush in. well love takes away reason everybody could be a fool.
Like a river flows gently to the sea Darling so we go, some things are meant to be So take my hand take my whole life too For i can't help falling in love with you
Really something are meant to be. Fatalism. I wish to give her my heart, but not my life but yes a life. The meeting were meant to be but the continuity I'll need to work on. How low can I go.
I didn't go low enough so we broke up a year later. /no
The new alliance made a statement and a commitment that if they win over this country they would strip us the Bumis together with our brethren from Sabah and Sarawak off our special rights.
Come to think of it we don't have to wait until this new alliance wins since the current government are doing it right now.
What is so special about this Namewee guy compares to Hassan Skodeng? What damage that Hassan skodeng inflict compares to that of Namwee? and why TNB never drag this Namewee to court as this clip has been produce even before Hassan skodeng satire?
Are we stripping the Bumis rights silently by awarding others special rights?
Petang kelmarin, aku telah menemui sahabat lama ku semasa study dulu di KB Mall. Dia baru balik daripada menemui isterinya yang mengajar di Manek Urai, Kuala Krai. Isterinya seorang guru manakala dia bekerja sebagai pengurus di pasar besar Giant di bandar Kuala Terengganu.
"Alang-alang datang KB baik aku jumpa kau terus" kawan aku itu. Tiba-tiba kawan aku itu mengacukan soalan "Killer" kepada aku, "Mung bila nak kawin. Aku anak dua dah, sorang tu dah nak masuk tadika dah. Jangan sampai anak aku nak ambik UPSR baru mung nak kawin" katanya ambil ketawa.
"Aku takpe, sedang mencari" jawab ku sambil ketawa. Aku memang tension dengan soalan "Killer" ni, jadi buat bodoh saja la. Hari raya minggu depan lagi la, mesti dihujani lagi dengan soalan itu.
Sedang rancak berborak dengan kawan ku itu, sambil memandang akan orang yang lalu lalang tidak kira anak dara atau emak dan bapa kepada anak dara, tiba-tiba kawan aku itu berkata "Aku dah jadi orang OKU sekarang". Aku terkejut dan bertanya "Hah biar betul! Aku namapk OK je ni". "Aku ada dua penyakit" jawab kawan aku itu. 'Penyakit apa pulak?" tanya ku. "Ghout dan sakit jantung" balas kawan ku . "Biar betul, kau muda lagi apa, baru 31 tahun" kata ku seolah-olah tidak percaya dengan apa yang dikatakannya. " Betul, baru minggu lepas aku kena" jawab kawan ku itu.
Kawan ku itu mula menceritakan bagaimana dia mendapat dua penyakit itu. Kawan ku itu seraing memakan makanan seafood seperti udang dan sotong. Dalam seminggu dalam tiga hingga empat kali dia akan memakan makanan seafood. Dia juga amat menggemari daging kambing. Selang dua hari dia akan memakan daging kambing, majoritinya masakan berbentuk Lamp Chop. "Sedap-sedap makan time berbuka, tiba-tiba aku rasa macam nak pitam" katanya. "Aku terpaksa di papah balik ke rumah".
"Pagi esok nya aku tak dapat bangun. Sekali lagi aku di papah untuk ke Hospital" sambungnya lagi. Di hospital doktor telah mengesahkan yang dia mendapat penyakit jantung di mana saluran arterinya telah tersekat dengan kolesterol dan dia telah diberikan ubat yang dapat memecahkan kolesterol itu.
Doktor juga mengesahkan dia mendapat penyakit ghout. Kawan ku itu bernasib baik kerana penyakit ghout itu baru peringakat awal dan asid di dalam darahnya belum bertukar menjadi kristal, yang sememangnya akan medatangkan kesakitan yang amat sangat jika ini berlaku. Semenjak dari itu dia terpaksa berpantang dalam bab makanan katanya.
Dia tidak boleh makan makanan seafood, ikan yang bersengat, sayur dari jenis pokok yang menjalar, tidak boleh minum air batu dan banyak lagi. Betul la apa yang di ajar dalam Islam. Punca penyakit semuanya datang dari perut. Main isi saja apa-apa dalam perut tu yang mudah mendapat penyakit.
Dan satu lagi bila sudah mula mengambil ubat satu lagi penyakit akan muncul, sakit atau rosak buah pinggang. Fungsi buah pinggang ialah untuk menapis bendalir dalam badan. Pengambilan ubat yang berterusan akan merosakkan buah pinggang. Jadi doktor telah berpesan kepada kawan ku itu, hanya makan ubat bila betul-betul perlu sahaja, untuk mengelakkan mendapat satu lagi penyakit.
Petang itu aku dan kawan ku itu berbuka di KB mall bersama dua orang lagi sahabatnya. Selepas berbuka kami sambung berborak. "Aku kerja dengan Giant sampai bulan ni je, aku dah tender untuk berhenti" kata kawan ku. "Kau nak kerja apa pula lepas ni" aku bertanya. 'Aku bisness sendiri la. Bini aku pun dah start tolong aku" balas kawan aku itu. "Aku lepas raya ni akan buka kedai kat Jerantut. Bisness sendiri dah loni, banyak masa sikit dengan anak-anak" kata kawan ku lagi.
Kami berborak panjang sampai pukul 11.30 malam dan dia pulang ke rumah salah seorang kawannya itu. Semasa memandu pulang aku terfikir apa yang dicakapkan oleh kawan aku itu. Umur aku dah meningkat, penyakit pun dah senag dapat, jadi baik aku mula berhati-hati pasal makanan ini. Taknak lah aku jadi macam kawan aku itu, muda-muda dah ada penyakit macam-macam. Aku pun perlu berfikir untuk bekerja sendiri. Aku dah mula bosan kerja dengan orang dan makan gaji ni. Tapi bisness apa ya mmm.